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What Grieving Mothers Want for Mother's Day

What Grieving Mothers Want for Mother's Day

These are some very observations on helping grieving moms get through Mother's Day written by my friend Renee Wood of

We don't like to think that this day could be anything but joyous, but for many women it is a day to remember their lost love, whether it be a miscarriage or loss of a child. Just the other day I received an email from a customer, asking to be taken off the mailing list because the emails reminded her of her loss. This is for her and all the other mom's who have a piece of their heart forever in Heaven. Offers

10 Simple Ways to Help Moms Cope When Mother's Day Hurts

Acknowledgement is what grieving mother's want most for Mother's Day, suggests a survey by, a website that specializes in meaningful sympathy gifts. The online survey asked “What can others do to ease your pain on Mother's Day”. Over 80 percent of the 200 respondents answered, "Recognize that I am a mother". “While Mother's Day is generally considered to be a day of celebration, for many women it is a day of pain and loss” says Renee Wood, former social worker and founder of The Comfort Company. "It's important to remember those moms who have had a failed pregnancy or who have lost a child at any age." In response to the survey results, has issued a list of ten simple ways to reach out to a grieving mother on this difficult holiday.

1. Recognize that they are a mother

Offer a hug and a "Happy Mother's Day". Send a card to let them know you remember they are a mother even though their child is not with them physically.

2. Acknowledge they have had a loss

Express the message, "I know this might be a difficult day for you. I want you to know that I am thinking about you.” Rememberme. The Orange Slice: The Grandparent Gift Co.

3. Use their child's name in conversation

One mother responded, "People rarely speak his name anymore, but when they do it’s like music to my ears".

4. Plant a living memorial

A tree or rose bush, like memories, will grow in beauty as the years pass.

5. Visit the grave site

Many mothers felt that it was "extremely thoughtful" when others visited their child's grave site and left flowers or a small pebble near the headstone.

6. Light a candle

Let the mother know you will light a candle in memory of their child on Mother's Day. Baby Memorial Gift: Orange Slice, The Grandparent Gift co.

7. Share a memory or pictures of the child

Give thegift of a memory. One mother wrote that the "greatest gift you can give is a heart felt letter about my child and a favorite memory with them".

8. Send a gift of remembrance

Many mothers felt a small gift would be comforting. Suggestions included: an angel statue, jewelry, a picture frame, a library book or toy donation in the child’s name or anything personalized. Baby Heaven Infant Loss Gift

9. Don't try to minimize the loss

Avoid using any clichés that attempt to explain the death of a child. ("God needed another angel.") Secondly, don't try to find anything positive about the loss ("You stillhave two healthy children").

10. Encourage Self-Care

Self-care is an important aspect of the "healing the mind and spirit effort" according to several mothers. Encourage a grieving mother to take care of herself. Give her a gift certificate to a day spa or any place where she can be pampered. What have you done to comfort a friend who has lost a child? Visit- for bereavement gifts Visit

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